The way we talk to ourselves almost always determines how we are going to think, feel and react to external situations and events in our lives - negatively or positively.
Most of us have experienced self-sabotaging thinking that has resulted in negative self-fulfilling prophecies. So how do we shift our negative thinking and develop a more positive mindset? The good news is, we have total control over what we choose to think, feel and believe. We can develop tools and resources to recognize when we are going down the road to self-doubt, fear, anxiety, depression (what AA calls “stinking thinking”), to challenge negative thinking and learn to focus on appreciation and gratitude.
“Nothing positive ever came out of a negative thought”
On a recent road trip with my sister Cher, I noticed she had a photo of my grand-daughter on the dashboard of her car. I asked her what that was about and she said “With all the heavy stuff going on lately, each time I get into my car I look at that picture and it brings me joy”.
We all experience appreciation and gratitude in different ways. Some of us, like my sister, experience joy through thoughts and feelings evoked by seeing pictures, cards, flowers and other objects that create positive emotions. Others are more kinesthetic and experience positive feelings through physical activities or touch like giving or receiving a hug, going out for coffee with a friend, shared activities, dancing, yoga, or creating beauty. Others may find joy through reading, spirituality, journalling or walking alone in nature.
What resonates with you when you think about developing a positive mindset?
Dr. Jean LaCour of the NET Institute for Addiction and Recovery Education suggests the following 6 Ways to Cultivate a Daily Routine of Appreciation and Gratitude
Take 7 minutes each morning to write down what you are appreciative for in your life
Appreciate at least 3 people every day
Look for the good in all situations
Choose to be grateful for even the difficult and challenging situations that arise in your life.
Carry a physical token of gratitude in your pocket, such as a rock, a crystal, or some other small object
Remember to appreciate yourself.
If you’re up for more focused 28 day practice I highly recommend The Magic by Rhonda Byrne who teaches us how to apply sacred knowledge about the power of gratitude into everyday life. I invite you to start today and notice how you are choosing to think, to feel and believe about events in your life and take action to develop a positive mindset.
Sending you love and positivity in your life! Kim
PS - Sharing the JOY photo - proud Grand Mom!!
Developing a Positive Mindset